If you’re juggling kids, work, social events, and the day to day grind of life, it’s easy to forget to dedicate time to your relationship. When there just aren’t enough hours in the day, something has to give and, too often, that thing is spending time with the person you love. It’s not easy for busy couples in the 21st century, but the price of sacrificing time together is a weaker relationship, which ultimately means less happiness for both of you.
With the summer vacation just around the corner, you have the perfect opportunity to do some relationship maintenance and initiate good habits you can carry with you into the rest of the year.
6 tips for busy couples
- Every night, plan your schedules together for the next day. It’s much easier to find time in your day when you do so in advance, and if you formally allocate some time together you’re more likely to stick to it than if you just make a vague commitment.
- Try getting up half an hour earlier and use the time to talk, give each other a massage, or whatever it is you enjoy doing together. You’re likely to get more from it than if you wait until the end of the day when you’re exhausted and thinking about bed.
- Try to find ways to meet each other during the day. If you are close enough, take your lunch or coffee breaks together. Ten minutes may not seem much, but before long it adds up to a much warmer relationship.
- Find common interests and hobbies that you can do together. It’s not likely that you both have the same favorite hobby, but you probably have something in common in your top five. Use your spare time as a chance to grow closer together, not further apart.
- Plan a getaway vacation. You can’t spend your whole life on holiday, but you can use that week to build up an atmosphere of intimacy and closeness you can carry with you into the rest of the year.
- Most important of all: unplug. It’s no good being alone together if you are occupied with your phone, email or social media. Spend at least 45 minutes a day together without distractions. Not just your relationship will benefit, but your brain as well.